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Starting Kindergarten

Most children are eager to learn and to join the world of the bigger kids who already go to school. But, like other big steps in life, beginning school can arouse many different feelings. Some children even imagine that being sent to school is a kind of punishment. They may wonder if they are somehow less important now because they're being "sent away,” and they may feel jealous of younger brothers or sisters who get to spend the whole day playing at home.

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Children’s Misconceptions about School

Some children are afraid to go to school because they don't know how to read and work with numbers, and they think they have to know all those things before they even arrive at school. Other children worry that there won't be any time for play once they get to school, or that they won't know when it's time to go home. They may worry about what could happen if they don't listen to the teacher or what they should do if they have to go to the bathroom. It’s helpful to encourage our children to talk about their concerns or fears so we can answer their questions, correct their misconceptions and give them more realistic expectations.

We can let them know that going to school is like discovering a new world, but not a world that's not completely unfamiliar. The more we help them recognize how much school is like home, the easier the transition can be. Like home, school has places to sit, places to play, a kitchen and bathrooms, and grownups (teachers) who care about children.

A Step Forward, a Step Back

When children feel uncertain about a new experience like kindergarten, it's common for them to behave in ways that they did when they were much younger --.clinging to their caregivers more closely than usual, thumb-sucking again, or even forgetting toilet training now and then. It helps to remember that such steps backward often come before big strides forward in a child's development.

Letting Go Can Be Hard for Parents

Parents, too, confront major milestones when their children enter kindergarten. It can be hard to face the fact that "my baby" is growing up. Many parents find it very difficult to "let go" those first days of school. They may even be remembering their own first days of separation from their own parents! No wonder there are so many teary-eyed mothers and fathers each year when school begins.

No matter how well things are going for your child at school, it can be very helpful to take the time to get to know your child's teacher and principal. Your child can sense when you're all working together "on the same team." If you have a good relationship with the teacher, you will probably feel more comfortable talking with him or her about your child's progress or special concerns.

Asking and Listening

As children deal with the different challenges of school, it can help them to know that we adults will gladly listen to what their day was like. Children need to know that their parents care about what happens at school and that their family is proud of the ways they're learning. There may be days, of course, when children won't want to talk at all about school, but if you've listened before, your child can trust that you will want to again when he or she is ready.

Share Your Own Experiences

Helping a child get ready for school often brings back feelings we adults had when we began school. No matter what those feelings are, if we can accept them truthfully and share them with our children, we can each have another important opportunity to grow. "I felt that way, too, when I was a child. Tell me more about what your day was like” is a wonderful way to begin to work on any new kind of growing.

Before the First Day of school:

  • Try to find a balance between acknowledging your child's fears and talking about school and teachers in warm and positive ways. You might ask what your child thinks school will be like so you can try to clear up any misconceptions.
  • If you possibly can, call the school and set up a visit so that you and your child can meet the teacher and tour the school building to see the classroom and other places, (like the gym, the playground, the kitchen, and the bathroom). It can be reassuring for children to know that many teachers are parents (and grandparents) themselves, that they were children once, and that it took a lot of learning for them to become teachers.
  • Help your child get to know other children in the neighborhood who go to the same school. You might try to arrange a "play date" with another child who will be in the same class, so your child will know at least one other classmate that first day.Prepare your child for some of the rules at school. Let your child know that teachers often make rules to help children be safe or to make learning orderly. One common rule is that children have to raise their hand and wait to be called on before they speak so that the teacher can be sure that everyone gets a turn.
  • Help your child learn your family's address and phone number. Write them on a piece of paper and tape it inside your child's pencil case or backpack. It's reassuring for children to know that they have that information.
  • Walk or ride with your child to school and back, so your child can become familiar with the route. You might also want to introduce your child to the crossing guard or school bus driver. Children often find that crossing guards and bus drivers become trusted friends.
  • Sometimes having too many toys available can be overstimulating and can actually stifle play. To encourage exciting and interesting play, keep your child’s toys on a rotating system, periodically stowing some toys away for a while and bringing them back out in exchange for others.
  • Sometimes other children may play about things like monsters or “bad guys” in ways that are scary for your child because it seems too real. Let your child know it's okay to say "Stop that. I don’t want to play that way."
  • Before going to a store, tell your child ahead of time what you're planning to buy and let your child know that's all you're going to buy. Then saying "no" may be easier for you to say and for your child to accept.

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